My Story Part of my healing journey was realizing that the way that I had been socialized greatly contributed to the issues in my marriage, separate from the abuse. I was trained up to believe things about myself, and being a woman in general, that simply weren't true. This led to a lack of integrity in my dealings with my husband, before and during our marriage, and within myself as a person, who was supposed to be living in the Truth of the Gospel. I want to preface the nex

My Story During the course of my marriage there were so many incidents of being undermined, overruled and ridiculed by my ex-husband, usually with our children as witnesses, that I lost count. There were also many times that I wanted to do something that would help me to develop spiritually or professionally where he purposely thwarted, sabotaged, harassed or otherwise worked to oppress me. While I certainly did not always respond to these abusive tactics with the strength an

My Story Hello! This is my first post, so welcome! I’m guessing you're here because of the title of this article, so you’ve probably assumed, correctly, that I’m a Christ follower and that this post has something to do with the poor guidance I received from the Church during my marriage, which would also be correct. The purpose of this blog is to document, as much as I can, the lies, misinformation and bad doctrine I received from pastors, counselors and lay people in the Chu

My Story During the course of my marriage I felt like I was always fighting to retain the "me-ness" of me. I was always fighting to become a better version of myself. Which, through years of therapy, I found out was actually true. I was always fighting for myself, because abusers never want you to develop or become a better you, mostly because they hate you, but also because people who feel good about themselves are harder to manipulate and control than those who are beat dow